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| - | "First, we will discuss the non-sexual, physical intimacy that helps increase the physical response. In this case, we will start with osculation." A couple people in the class laughed. I sat there, confused, not sure what the word meant. "In this case, osculate is the medical term for kissing."
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| - | With that, he started discussing the different types of kiss, non-intimate, such as a kiss on the forehead or the more personal but non-intimate kiss on the cheek, to the more intimate kisses, lip to lip contact.
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| - | "First, lets start with why kissing itself is important. With some exceptions, sex takes place between two people who have developed a bond. Bonding itself can happen in various ways, ways that I will not go into during this course," suddenly I found myself blushing again as his comment, 'with some exceptions' hinted at exactly the type of reason I was in this class, "and kissing is normally one of the ways we assess our compatibility sexually. We all know that being friends, that physical attraction, things like this are not enough to build a relationship on."
| + | Another link that I really like for research: www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199909/the-pleasure-pain |
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| - | Most of the class nodded or murmured agreement. One girl raised her hand, apparently noting exactly what triggered my blushes. "What if we are just a whore, and having sex for money? Is kissing still important?"
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| - | The instructor glared at her. "Please refrain from using words like 'whore' in my class. Each person has their own reasons for seeking intimacy, and it is not up to us to judge their reasons. I don't care if you approve of the reasons or not. In this class we will show tolerance and acceptance of how others chose to live their life, even if we do not agree with those reasons." He stared at her until she finally agreed and lowered her own eyes. It did not help me much though, because I knew I was the target. I wondered how the other woman would feel if she knew that all humiliating me and putting me in my place did was turn me on further. I regretted not being able to say yes to the other student, since I was pretty sure he wanted me as a partner to fuck me. And, right that second, I was more than willing. After thinking about it, I realized that the teacher had basically said we would be fucking each other in class, so...now I wanted to know when we would be getting down to it.
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| - | Both men and women use kissing for mate assessment—to decide on a potential partner. Good kissers are more likely to get chosen as partners. Bad kissing, in contrast, can be a deal-breaker.<br>
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| - | Good kissing leads to feelings of bonding and attachment. Sharing a kiss both creates and maintains a feeling of connectedness, which is important both early in a relationship and over time.<br>
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| - | Good kissing can also lead to arousal and sex. Passionate make-outs are often necessary (and effective) precursors to further intimacy.<br>
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| - | Attractive kissing partners were found to have good hygiene, including fresh breath and clean teeth. Grooming had an effect overall as well.<br>
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| - | Both men and women found assertiveness attractive in a kisser. Partners who committed to a kiss, rather than making out half-heartedly, were viewed as better kissers.<br>
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| - | Touching, caressing, and general physical contact while kissing was also key to a successful smooch.<br>
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| - | Finally, kissing with a new partner was evaluated as best when closed-mouth initially, with minimal saliva exchange (especially for women). Soft, moist lips were preferable; a drooling, tongue-down approach was not. Over time, kissing could work up to greater "passion" and "intimacy," with increased open-mouth, tongue, and saliva exchange.
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| - | Women: Overall, a good kiss appeared more important to women than to men. The study indicated that women use kissing to judge a date or mate more than men. They are also more likely to use kissing as a way to bond—and to look for kisses throughout a relationship. In addition, they are less likely to kiss when they feel a partner only wants sex and nothing more.
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| - | Men: By contrast, men were found to be somewhat less picky with their kissing partners. However, they were also found to be more passionate. Men prefer open-mouthed, tongue-included, wet kissing more than women. They also seemed to prefer that their partner makes pleasurable noises while kissing.
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| - | 1. To prove yourself and test a partner
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| - | A first kiss can be anxiety-provoking—but that doesn't mean one should put it off for too long. Remember: Assertiveness is attractive in a kisser. Besides, you want to see how your partner kisses back. One would be advised to pucker up when he or she detects some interest. (For tips on reading body language, click here).
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| - | Beyond being assertive and committed to the kiss, "good" first kisses have some standard features: The first is hygiene—brush your teeth, avoid smelly food, or use breath mints, but the smell and taste of your mouth are keys to success. Soft lips are helpful, as well, so don't skimp on the lip balm.
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| - | From there, it's all about the mechanics: Wet your lips slightly, as nicely lubricated lips are more welcome. When you lean in to begin a (closed-mouth) kiss, be sure to touch as well. Hold your partner's cheek, brush their hair away from their face, and embrace or cuddle as you kiss. Also, let your partner "lead" the kiss a bit. (You're judging them and their "style" as much as they are yours.)
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| - | A first kiss isn't the time for a heavy "make-out" session. It may be heartfelt and passionate, perhaps with a bit of playful flirting. Only kiss for a few moments (be sure to leave them wanting more) but, continue to touch, cuddle, and look in your partner's eyes afterward, too.
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| - | 2. To connect and bond
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| - | Kissing can make a partner feel noticed, loved, and connected. This is especially true in long-term relationships, in which kissing can often be forgotten. When you want your partner to feel good and "like" you, remember to give them a smooch.
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| - | The mechanics of a "bonding" kiss are similar to that of the "testing" kiss (hygiene, soft lips, a loving caress, etc.). Bonding kisses can be lengthy and include a cuddly make-out session, but they can be equally persuasive if they are very short, even just a peck or a caring kiss on the forehead. In this case, it is literally the thought that counts, because this is about "bonding"—building a feeling of comfort and attachment here, and not necessarily sexual arousal. These kisses are ideal during "spontaneous" moments, as part of a larger effort to build connection and rapport (for more, see here). This type of bonding kissing is also important after sex to make sure a partner feels loved and attended to.
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| - | 3. To arouse and seduce
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| - | Kissing, of course, often leads to passionate feelings and sexual activity, especially more "intimate" open-mouth, tongue-involved kisses. If you are "in the mood," you'll likely seek to persuade your partner's libido with a kiss. Passionate kissing is essentially a progression of the other two types. All of the hygiene and touching rules apply. The intensity gets turned up a bit with greater assertiveness. Slowly, the touching and embracing gets a bit more intense, as open mouths and tongues get involved.
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| - | Arousal kissing also lasts longer; we escalate the intensity when we feel our partner reciprocate. As they become more assertive, we may proceed to kissing other areas (like the neck) and to foreplay. If they slow it down, we may go back to another type of kissing until they are on the same page. (For more on reading a partner's sexual motivation, click here.)</blockquote>
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| - | 1.The Forehead Kiss
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| - | A kiss on the forehead is a gentle expression of admiration. Usually it is a kiss of friendship or a starter kiss for something for romantic later.
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| - | 2. Kiss on the Hand
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| - | This is when you grasp a persons hand with your fingers gently and kiss the back of the palm. It’s a chivalrous move and one that shows your admiration and passion for someone.
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| - | When two noses rub up against each other and move back and forth. It’s affectionate and often given from a parent to their child. The Eskimo Kiss is believed to be the romantic option for those who live in cold climates, otherwise there’s risk of lips getting stuck together.
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| - | The French Kiss involves plenty of tongue action and mastery. While not easy to master, it derives from passion, romance and desire so part of the trick is to just go with your emotions.
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| - | A subtle single lip kiss is where you suck and sandwich their lip between yours at the same time. This is a suggestive kiss that lets the reciprocate know that you are very into them.
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| - | This all encompassing kiss is targeting an erogenous zone for most so it’s kind of a big deal. You accomplish this by gently kissing or nibbling the ear on the earlobes. Known to be one of the most romantic and intimate kisses between lovers.
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| - | When two people get so close to each others face while they kiss that their eyelashes connect. This kind of kiss and it’s intimate gesture is for those madly infatuated or in love with each other.
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| - | Perhaps this sensual kiss was in the mix before Spiderman came out with the epic kiss scene. Spidey is upside down and Mary Jane is standing right side up. This is less risky when doing horizontally on the couch or bed and is a kiss of passion between lovers.
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| - | 9. The Lingering Kiss
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| - | A lingering kiss entails a lot of lip to lip kissing for long periods of time. It’s full of intense emotion and passion and is often reserved for new love.
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| - | A short peck on the cheek, often in combination with a hand on the arm or a half embrace. It’s meanings are dependent on where you are in the world. For some cultures, it’s a hello or goodbye.
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| - | Also known as the lipstick kiss where a girl puts lipstick on and kisses her partner on the cheek, neck or lips. This leaves a mark and is usually just a playful gesture.
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| - | This is when lovers send an erotic messages while french kissing so others don’t know about it. It’s for two people that are very close to each other.
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| - | This is where the tongue rapidly goes in and out of the mouth in quick strokes. It’s a passionate kiss for lovers that are hot and heavy into each other.
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| - | Air Kisses can be seen in old french movies in greetings. It’s done by giving out a “Mwaah” in the air beside someone’s cheek. Sometimes it’s done on both cheeks depending on what country you’re in. It’s popular among celebs and can also be seen within family and friends. It’s a non romantic, friendly gesture.
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| - | This is a gentle kiss on someone’s eyelids and is a sweet gesture between two people that deeply love each other. A mother can do it to her child or a husband can do it to his wife.
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| - | This is where you bit an open mouth that’s much like a subtle French kiss (less tongue though). A kiss to win someone’s heart and seduce them. It will make anyone’s knees weak.
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| - | Subtle bites and nibbles on certain parts of a person’s facial features such as the nose, cheeks, chin and eventually a kiss is planted on the neck. Deeply sensual kiss that is spontaneous between lovers and exudes intimacy and eroticism.
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| - | A kiss that is gentle and yet incredibly sensual as you kiss your partner’s jaw. This kiss is for those that are already intimate and very close to each other.
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| - | (either way, or both at once -- 69. Back when i frequented reddit, one of the female posters said that sometimes when men would go down on her they would leave a bigger wet spot under their dick than she would under her pussy)
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The remaining students gave their reasons for being in class, and it was time to find partners. I sat there, focusing on my desk, as others partnered up. One of the single guys approached me, asking if I was willing to partner with him. I glanced out of him out of the corner of my eye, saw a look of interest, but said nothing, still mortified at what I had said, and still enjoying the sensation. I honestly wanted to tell him yes, and in fact, wished I could do more, but I was unable to move. He misread my silence, and went on to find another partner, leaving me alone.
The instructor approached my desk. "Well, I guess it is you and me," he started out with. "Unfortunately, when we have hands on training, that means that you will be the one that needs to work with me to instruct the others, to show techniques, things like that. This will put you right at the front of everything. Are you okay with that?"
By now I had regained my equilibrium, so was able to respond. "Yes," I said, barely above a whisper, while nodding yes, it was okay for me.
"About your reason, I would like to see you after class to discuss that." I nodded yet again, feeling myself flush.
Another link that I really like for research: www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199909/the-pleasure-pain
