Masochist me/Sex training/Oral

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"Today, we will go beyond touch. The lesson today will relate to oral sex. During the hands on experience, both the males and females will use a condom." He held up the male and female condoms for us to see. "Now, first, we will start with the basics of putting on a condom.Sorry, even if you already know, you need to go through it. Although everyone in this class has been tested for STIs, we still need to take all safety precautions."

With that, he brought up his partner. Of course, that meant me.

"Now, condoms can be put on by yourself, or by your partner. We will practice both ways."

He paused, then continued. "For now, we will cover men. For men, there are lots of documents on how to properly apply a condom."

He pulled off his pants and underwear, leaving his penis...rather exposed. "Before you start, make sure your penis is erect. Your partner can help, but should not touch until your condom is on." He grabbed his penis, stroking it slowly in front of all of us. I could not understand how he could do that and not look at least a little embarrassed. Once his penis was fully erect, he continued.

"For vaginal and anal sex, it is recommended to use a latex condom if at all possible. If it is unlubricated, then you will need to add lubrication, or you will risk breaking it. Do not use lambskin or other animal skin condoms if you are unsure of your partner, as they only protect against pregnancy, not against STIs. Also, latex is less likely to break than polyurethane condoms. For oral sex, it is better to use unlubricated or flavored condoms. Today, we will use flavored. Now, if you are using toys, it is still better to put a condom on. Otherwise, you will risk infections or worse. Last, use the proper lubrication, water based. Oil lubrication, while easier, since you will not need to reapply as often, will break latex. And women, if you are being treated for a yeast infection, the treatments contain oil, so it will cause condoms to break. Better to just wait until it has cleared up."

With that, he grabbed a condom and his penis.

"First, make sure you open your condom carefully so as not to rip it. It is not recommended to open it with your teeth. Next, check that it is facing the correct direction. The condom should unroll on the outside. If it is on the inside, you need to turn it around. If you have foreskin, then you need to pull it back before applying the condom. Now, we pinch the tip of the condom to make sure there are no air bubbles. Air bubbles will increase the risk of breakage and gives the semen somewhere to collect." He pinched the tip to show, then unrolled the condom down his penis a little. "Next, unroll it while still pinching the tip. Continue unrolling it until it reaches the base of your shaft. Now, once the condom is on, you can apply lubricant as needed," with this, he grabbed a small bottle of K-Y Jelly and spread it over the condom. "You will only use this for the condom exercise, not for the oral exercise. Now, let me show you how you will deal with it after you have finished orgasming."

With that, he closed his eyes and started stroking his penis. I was not alone in looking at him shocked.

By now, we had all orgasmed in the class at least once, but it was still surreal to see my teacher whip out his penis and start masturbating. Soon, he grunted, and the tip of the condom swelled up. "Sorry, but to explain how to remove, we have to have a used condom. Now that you have finished, you wrap your thumb and pointer finger around the condom right above the base. Slide it down the shaft until it comes off. This will keep the semen in the condom, instead of allowing it to leak out. If you wait until your penis is flaccid, then the semen can leak out the sides."

He held up his newly filled condom. Then, he put it in a plastic bag, tied it up, and threw it in a trashcan with the bio-hazard label on the side. "Please make sure your used condoms are disposed of properly."

With that, he turned us all to hands on practice. Soon, all the guys were naked from the waist down, penises everywhere. The teacher also had me practice putting one on him. "Remember, you need to practice taking it off. You can do it yourself, or ask your partner to assist." Some guys masturbated, others got handjobs. "No oral," he said, looking at one girl who was about to wrap her lips around her partner's cock. "You will get to practice that later. For now, it is simple condom practice." Eventually, all the guys had their filled condom disposed of. All the men got dressed, and sat back down.

He turned to me, and said in a low voice, "have you ever used a female condom before?" I shook my head no. "Okay, I will insert it for you."

"As with the male condom, you should make sure a female condom has not expired, and that it is still in good condition. Do not use the one that has been in your purse for the past year." He again turned to me. "Can you please take off your shorts and panties?" He asked. I nodded, then started removing all my clothes from the waist down.

www.avert.org/sex-stis/safer-sex-hiv/female-condoms

wow, found some reference material I like, for women giving guys oral:

hellobeautiful.com/2534932/how-to-give-great-head

Make sure your mouth is moist and if it isn’t, get something to drink because you most certainly don’t want to start a bonfire on his package. Keep your spit, don’t swallow (not yet anyway). Wrap your moist mouth around his manhood and do it slow. Let him feel it. The warm breath and wet crevice will excite him and remind him of your sweetness. Get the entire candy stick wet, going down as far as you can without straining. Form a fishy face with your lips and use up and down motions to get into a groove. Some men like when you use your hand, so grab the base and hold it tight. At the same time slowly flick your wrist in a smooth motion like your grinding pepper and jerk.

You should be breathing through your nose, so when you stop it is only to come up for a second breath of air. By now, with the rubbing and friction, you will need to re-lubricate your human lollipop. Form a wad of saliva in your mouth then spit on it like he disgusts you. (Gross right? They love it!) Things are going to start getting complicated now… Use your other hand to tickle his berries. Juggle them in your palm, but don’t take that mouth off his pulsating pole!

Pay attention to his movements and moans. Some men won’t make noise, so you need to evaluate their expressions. That is how you will know if they’re feeling it. Don’t be afraid to look, but don’t stare and when you look up, look straight so you won’t appear cock-eyed (just in case he’s looking right back at you).

Brace yourself by relaxing your throat. If you are too tense, it won’t pass through. I’m talking about deep-throating. It isn’t for the faint of heart. Put your big girl panties on and push down until you feel like you’re about to gag. Hum or moan, it loosens the throat. Take in a big breath through your nose if you feel you dinner coming up. Keep control of your reflex by going down at your own pace. If you aren’t comfortable with it don’t let him force you down faster or harder. He knows what your attempting to do and he is going to be very anxious.

After letting his penis marinate around your esophagus, start jerking with one hand then kiss his balls. I know what you’re thinking… They’re not ugly! Play with them, lick them, spell your name on them. If he isn’t squirming, then you aren’t doing it right. Try different methods like sucking, or flicking your tongue. Become his eye candy. Squat and open your legs wide so he can watch you climax with him!

Find a rhythm between your mouth and hand. Take a huge breath and don’t breath again until you feel like you can hold it anymore. Take a lung-full of air and do it all over again. Keep it moving and build momentum with each stroke. Spit. Keep going.

You will feel him tense as he is close to finishing.

This part is optional (unless you’re trying to get a ring):

The key to swallowing for a beginner is not tasting it. An advanced head giver might play with it in their mouth but that’s your choice. I’m not one for interrupting the moment, so I don’t recommend spitting it out (unless you’re going to sop it back up). When that tangy (sometimes bitter) secretion flows, think of it as yogurt and swallow!

Good for some tips:

www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/things-we-wish-guys-knew-about-oral-sex

Make Pit Stops

Getting up, shifting your body down, and honing in on her vagina like a heat-seeking tongue missile is the opposite of sexy. Work your way down by kissing her neck, breasts, stomach, and inner thighs. Then you can go in for the kill.

Don’t Be All American Pharoah Out of the Gate

Speaking of going in for the kill, you may like it hard and fast right away...but women like a little buildup. Take your time, assess the situation, and go slooow.

She’s Self-Conscious About It

Vaginas be crazy: They can develop an odor, have excess discharge, and even taste different (or so we hear). So it’s pretty understandable that we might feel a little uncomfortable about you sticking your face down there. Tell your girl she’s beautiful, and let her know how into it you are, too. That’ll go a long way.

Play Nice

While we know you want to use every tool you’ve got when you’re down there, never, ever use your teeth. If you do, you and your Dracula fanboy *ss might be sleeping together on the couch tonight.

Use Your Ears

If all you hear is “...” you’re doing it wrong. Soften your approach, try a different spot, and listen for moans—that’s your cue that you’ve found the right spot.

...And Your Hands

Okay, okay—it’s oral sex. But you can make it so much better if you add in a little finger action, as well. Just keep in mind that our hatred of jackhammer sex applies to finger usage as well.

Forget What Your Ex Told You Works

Every woman is different. Plus, she was probably lying.

She’s Shifting Around for a Reason

We want to help, so let us. If she’s repeatedly arching her back in a way that moves your tongue away from its current maneuver, there’s probably a reason for it. Go to the next move, man.

Know Where the Clitoris Is

Take a second, and run your finger along the top of her vagina. Feel that little bump? You found it—hooray! Still lost? Your buddy Google will clue you in later.

...And Use It

Please. Pretty please?

...Just Don’t Spend All Your Time There

Some dudes are obsessed with the clitoris—obsessed. And while it’s a super awesome and incredibly important part to focus on, there are other areas that feel pretty damn good, too. Branch out and showcase your versatility. She’ll appreciate it.

Spelling the Alphabet Down There Is Just Weird

Know that trick you read where spelling the alphabet on her ladybits with your tongue is the best thing ever? It’s not. It’s just weird.

Try Sucking

Licking is the go-to move during oral, obviously, but (gentle) sucking is a good way to mix it up. Try a little over her clitoris, and see how she reacts. If she’s into it, go a teensy bit harder.

Sometimes, It’s Not Going to Happen

...And that’s okay. Seriously. Step away from the vagina. Please don’t keep at it for 30 minutes in an effort to prove your manhood. It won’t end well.

Beware the Post-Oral Kiss

Some women have zero issue with it; Others are seriously grossed out. Sure, you just did a really good deed, but don’t ruin it now. Let her make the first move. If she goes for your lips, great; if not, her neck will happily receive your lips.

www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/confessions/tips/a3497/oral-sex-tips/

No matter who is going down on whom, the goal is to make it as pleasure filled as possible. But since hardly anyone talks about it, it's tough to get the good, juicy tips you need to make it mind-blowing. Well, at Cosmo we've never been afraid of doing the dirty work for you. So here are the best tricks for giving your guy lip lovin'. Oh, and some for you to pass along to him, so he gives as good as he gets.

A shocking number of women have trouble mentally letting go and enjoying oral. Sound like you? Try keeping the lights off so you can't see him. You'll have fewer distractions and be able to focus.

There's a gag-proof way to go deep.

Here's a trick that gives him the illusion that you're taking him all the way in: Place the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth. Then let his member hit the underside of your tongue.

You should have him at hello.

A Cosmo poll found that 34 percent of guys say they wish a girl would surprise them with oral when they walk in the door. Tell him to text you when he's almost home, then ambush him.

Suction isn't just for hickies.

Many women have complained to our experts that they have a hard time getting off when he's down south because their guy doesn't use enough pressure. Ask him to switch up his moves and try sucking on your clitoris instead — it provides a more intense pressure.

He doesn't always want to finish.

Many guys don't actually want going down to be the main event. According to a Cosmo poll, 54 percent of men like oral action as foreplay.

His "boys" want to join the party.

Fifty-one percent of men complain that their girlfriends ignore their balls during oral. Try this trick: While your hand strokes his shaft, take one testicle at a time into your mouth and lightly suck.

There's a way he's never been licked.

The meatus — the hole on the tip of his penis — is super-sensitive. Stick the tip of your tongue on that spot and apply medium pressure. It's such a specific place, he probably doesn't even realize it has feel-good potential, so he'll love that you've discovered it.

Lube can taste good.

If you're going to be down there for a while, you may get a case of cotton mouth, which can cause chafing on his penis. Lube can fix that. Lots of companies are making flavored formulas that taste just slightly fruity or minty, not like candy-coated toxic waste. You can buy a sample pack online at babeland.com.

Shakira had the right idea.

Many chicks complain that their guy lacks variation in technique. If you don't want to speak up, physically move your hips, like you're squirming from all the pleasure. It'll give him the hint that he should vary his moves.

If you're into it, he's into it.

One thing that turns guys on is enthusiasm. In fact, lots of them have a hard time fully enjoying themselves because they worry that their partner hates being down there. Let him know you like it by softly moaning as you take him into your mouth.

One Cosmo sex poll found that guys say their favorite thing is when a woman uses her mouth and hands on their package at the same time. Stack one hand on top of the other on his shaft, and gently twist in opposite directions. At the same time, flick your tongue—like a snake—over the tip.

You're probably missing a spot.

Here's a secret erogenous zone that you should definitely hit while you're down there: Trail your tongue down his shaft to the area between his testicles and the base. Purse your lips together, and lightly suck on the patch of skin. It's packed with nerve endings, so any attention you give it will feel heavenly.

Multitasking leads to more Os for you.

Our experts say that being stimulated in multiple areas will help a woman reach climax more quickly. So while his tongue is at work, have him play with your nipples. In the beginning, he should softly stroke your tips, but as you get closer, he can squeeze.

69 isn't truly amazing until you've tried this.

Lie side-by-side, with your head near his penis. As you both lick, let your hands massage each other's booties—there are large muscles there, so rubbing them will make for an even greater release.

Cooling down can be very hot.

Your temperature rises slightly when you're aroused, so anything cool will be a pleasurable jolt to your senses. Point a fan in your direction so that while he's between your legs, you're feeling both warm from his mouth and a cool breeze. The combo is unexpected, and anything surprising can send you over the edge.

A vice-grip can be nice.

The ridge of his penis—where the tip meets the shaft—is very sensitive to touch. Cover your teeth with your lips, and place them around that ridge like a vice. Apply firm pressure—like how you squeeze fruit—then release and repeat. This movement perks up the nerves there and then lets them relax, which can feel really good.

Sometimes thinking dirty is a bad idea.

The primary reason women give sex therapists for not wanting their guy down there is they worry they smell. Your guy probably loves your aroma, but you can eliminate that concern by taking a quick half-shower before a date. You will feel much fresher and won't worry about a funky fragrance.

He wants to pretend he's a bike seat.

You don't have to be on your back when you're on the receiving end of oral. Have him lie down, and then put your privates over his mouth. This gives you some control over the pace and motion, making it easier for you to orgasm. And experts tell us it can be erotic for a man to have your coochie that up close and personal.

There's a digital version of oral.

Here's a unique way to give his frenulum—the tiny bump on the underside of his penis where the shaft meets the tip—some special attention: Place the tip of your finger on it, then take his shaft (along with your finger) into your mouth. As you move your mouth up and down, rub your finger over the F-spot.

Feast his eyes.

You probably already know that guys are extremely visual, but it can be hard for him to get a decent view while you're down there lavishing his penis with love. Place a standing mirror next to you so he can check you out. The combo of feeling and seeing you will blow (pun intended) his mind.

How to Persuade Him to Return the Favor...

If your guy doesn't always dive headfirst between your legs, it's time to drop a serious hint.

Get a Brazilian.

Men say landing strips make them want to spend time down there the most.

Conduct a taste test.

Pick up flavored lube samples, then tell your guy you want him to find out which tastes best on you.

Talk it up.

Since guys get off on getting you off, say "I can't stop thinking about the last time you went down on me."

Oral

(either way, or both at once -- 69. Back when i frequented reddit, one of the female posters said that sometimes when men would go down on her they would leave a bigger wet spot under their dick than she would under her pussy)