User:DirtyMeStoryTime/Women and objectification

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Now, this one may get a bit rambly. Sometimes it is as hard to explain what it feels like to be objectified as it is to explain what it feels like to be in love. But I will try.

Anyways, once I saw this funny comic trying to explain the difference between male and female puberty. I would show you, but cannot find it...

Anyways, the picture of the boy shows a few little whiskers, and states: Welcome to puberty. You will experience some changes, like body hair and voice changes. You may also find yourself feeling some strange urges.

The picture of the girl shows her getting kicked between the legs, symbolizing the start of her new period and cramps, and says "Welcome to your objectification".

So, here is the sad part for girls that most guys I don't think really appreciate (No worries, after getting this off my chest, I will get to the rest of the objectification part): First, we get teased for these new bumps growing from our chest. Then, we get teased about the size of these new bumps. It doesn't matter if you develop breasts slowly or quickly, as a girl, we still get teased. If they grow slowly, we get teased about how small we are compared to other girls. If we grow bigger quickly, we get teased about the size of our breasts compared to the other girls. Also, our bodies will be judged, we will be teased about weight, height, and other things.

Why the above? It starts to let you understand how the "objectification" starts to kick in. Our bodies are different, and we are judged based on things we have no control over. Our breasts become something that, as they get older and hit puberty, suddenly become an object of interest for guys. We start to get the "Show me please" passive aggressive requests, like because our chest is different, we should allow guys to see what it looks like. I mean, after all, guys can take off their shirt, but girls cannot, so they want to see why.

Our bodies become everything. We wear outfits that show more skin, and suddenly that is bad. So, as a girl, we just went from being able to run around topless like the boys, to having to cover up at all times. From being able to wear outfits that were cute, to "OMFG you are showing off too much skin, are you a slut?".

Girls are told to be strong, to be secure, to be ourselves, and yet constantly told by society the exact opposite. Ladies do not eat that much. Trust me, if you eat the same as a guy, people will look at you strange. Ladies do not dress in revealing outfits. Yet, that guy jogs by wearing nothing but shorts and sneakers. Ladies do not fart. Trust me, we do, we poop too. I will fart right back at my husband, but because of social conditioning, I will not fart in public. Which is strange, because I will fuck in public if I had the choice, but not fart in public. Same with burping. We need to pass gas too, but it is not ladylike to do so in public.

So, we are a different species. How we look, sound, smell, dress, our weight, our chest size, all these things become who we are. The superficial, surface thing. Like some sort of pretty, shiny, object. Not how we think, express ourselves, our personality, how we treat others, how we react to situations, but our physical presence. Mothers teach their daughters to respect themselves, to be themselves, and to be a strong, proud woman. Yet, they are reinforcing the same message as the rest of society.

So, we are told not to be an object, that we have value, while we are criticized on all the things that make us an object.

Now it gets tricky. In most women, there is a battle between ourselves as a person and ourselves as an object. We are wracked with self doubt, with dislike for certain parts of ourselves, and with this conflict between the two sides.

Then, we get into sex. A lady never has sex. Ever. They magically have children, but not sex. Not sure how this is ever separated. It becomes even confusing when we get blamed for not "keeping our lover happy". Now, woman to woman, we talk about sex more than most guys might believe, but this is written more so guys can see the world from my perspective, since women have lived this.

So, what does it feel like to be objectified? Now this is where it is hard to explain. You feel worthless, cheap, used. Ever worked for a company where you were not really a person, just a job to get done? That is what it feels like, but everyday. You feel like you have more to offer, but all anyone sees is a pretty face, bouncing breasts and ass, and something to plug up with manhood and babies.

Yeah, I understand not everyone sees it this way, but I am talking about how we feel generally in society at large. Women even do it to each other. Hint for the guys: Women dress up for either ourselves or other women. Oh, sometimes we will dress up to try to impress a guy, but normally it is so we can look better than the other women. Or, because it makes us feel good about ourselves. I have heard the old "If she didn't want to be raped, she shouldn't have dressed like that". Well, we dressed like that because it made us feel good about ourselves, not so you wouldn't feel as bad when you raped us. And many guys do not feel this way, but even if they don't, I think many do still think if a woman dresses up in something others call, "slutty", that it is so they can be seen by guys.

And yes, sometimes I admit, I do dress up to see how guys will react. It is fun. If you enjoy the show, then leave it at that unless I let you know I want more.

Anyways, back to objectification. Why do we feel better when dressed up in sexy or slutty outfits? We have been conditioned that we should feel good about ourselves when our shells, our body, looks good, and feel bad about ourselves when they do not.

See, we dance this line of trying to stop being objectified and being so conditioned that we do it to ourselves, with others just perpetuating it.

Now, here is where the real fun for you readers comes in. It becomes a taboo, to let yourself be objectified as a woman. I mean, you can see the women who are starting to try to make themselves look like dolls. This is just a manifestation of that.

Some people get off on the taboo incest. Some people on specific ages (Looking at you, people who have the jailbait and loli fetishes). Some people get off on things even more out there, like animals.

Well, for women, allowing ourselves to be an object knowingly becomes a taboo. And, that is where the strange fetish comes in. See, when you get down to it, my public use fetish is really an objectification fetish (Well, that and I am an attention whore, and love being the center of attention, even if it is just for being a sex object). Really, so is my exhibitionist fetish. See, as a woman, it is taboo, so it is a dirty little secret. Oh, we do not want it all the time, and many women will resist it, just like not everyone has incest fantasies, but for many other women, it is sort of a fetish that manifests with boyfriends, husbands, one night stands. Even the "Fine, fuck me and get it over with so I can get back to doing other things" mindset we have when our partners keep bugging us for sex when we are not in the mood is basically us turning off our brain (Or thinking about something else, because trust me, during those times, we aren't normally paying attention to you) and letting you use us as a masturbation device. Even when we do it because we feel it is our obligation, it normally follows this same patterns.

So, when you see me writing about being used as a sex object, remember this article, and think about yourself, women, society, and how they intermix.