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As parents we have so much to worry about in regards to our youngsters. We want to shield them from all of lifes dangers, but we want to accomplish this without having putting unnecessary fear into their lives.

When my children have been small, we started speaking about secrets. What is a great secret and what is a undesirable secret? This seemed to be a notion my youngsters could realize, although accomplishing my aim of not scaring them.

Excellent secrets are items that you get to inform mommy or daddy. Such as we bought daddy a birthday gift. These days it's a secret but tomorrow we get to inform daddy. Yet another very good secret is when the principal at school tells you there will be a celebration for your teacher but nowadays it's a secret. Tomorrow however we get to inform the teacher.

As your kids get a bit older, a excellent secret might even be your buddy telling you she likes a boy. While your child may be asked not to inform the boy, your kid could undoubtedly tell you this secret.

So what is a poor secret? A undesirable secret is a secret that your youngster is asked to Never tell. A negative secret might be an additional kid admitting they did anything wrong and asking your kid not to inform. It may also be an adult acting inappropriately with your child and telling the kid to keep this a secret and not inform mommy.

My kids asked of course, "who will inform us negative secrets?". I began to tell them that poor men and women inform poor secrets, and swiftly realized this is not accurate at all. As an alternative I chose to inform them that a negative secret can come from each a youngster and an adult who is undertaking anything incorrect. To this day I nevertheless believe that only somebody undertaking anything incorrect will ask a youngster to keep a secret from mommy or daddy.

My kids and I spent many hours speaking about secrets and that mommy and/or daddy need to often be told secrets. I also assured them that they would Never ever get in problems for telling mommy or daddy a secret. I can keep in mind a handful of instances, my kids slipping and telling a excellent secret when they weren't supposed to, but I kept my word and they by no means got in trouble. You see, I have frequently heard that someone acting inappropriately will say "if you tell your mommy, you will get in problems". I never ever wanted my child to have a visual image of obtaining in problems for telling mommy a secret.Dr Edward Berzin MD 6560 Fannin St #1804 Houston, TX 77030 (713)722-0111