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<p>TV Dating Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books Stop Getting Dumped,!, How to Date Like a Grownup and Fifteen Minutes of Shame (a novel) and is seen everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD. </p>
<p>TV Dating Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books Stop Getting Dumped,!, How to Date Like a Grownup and Fifteen Minutes of Shame (a novel) and is seen everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD. </p>
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<p>For years after having our first babies, my friends and I uttered,, “I never knew that was going to happen” many times over. From birthing books to family elders’ recollections, the pieces of advice and information bits handed out never seemed to cover what occurred beyond the outside edges of the sit-com version of new parenting.</p>
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<p>I was primed to tell her that things she wouldn’t dream of touching would soon become things she would instinctively reach out to catch bare-handed to save the carpet. I was prepared to explain how,, just after wiping her baby’s face with her shirt, she would inevitably run into her handsome, successful and single ex-boyfriend. I was equipped to chat about the noises and odors that come from the nether regions of small children,, and how they become common place and mundane quicker than one would think.</p>
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<p>I looked forward to revealing that “me time” becomes a short break to buy groceries alone, during which all she will think about is her husband and children anyway. And how the term “mommy-brain” would deftly weave it’s way into her daily conversation.</p>
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<p>I began to think about telling that mother-to-be more about the importance of holding on to those special moments,, acknowledging each milestone and passage into the next stage of life—our children’s and our own.</p>
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<p>I hoped to tell stories about words I previously promised would never come out of my mouth, like “because I said so”, “go ask your father”, and “I don’t need a weekend getaway—I just need some respect around here.”</p>
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<p>I’ve been a parent for over eight years now, and I think I have finally figured out what to say,, should that young mother-to-be appear,, asking for the truth. And it is this: that there is no single truth.</p>
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<p>I wanted to talk about all the mistakes and mishaps that occur—ones that never seem to make it into any book or advice section. I would share the time I saved up for four months to buy a designer purse, and then, after unpacking it,, watched my youngest drop it into a toilet, forever re-naming it my Louis “Pee-ton”. And how my friend’s daughter and dog sat together,, eating an entire cup of puppy food before she realized what it meant when a young child is awake, yet quiet.</p>
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<p>Because of this, I began to look forward to telling the absolute, one hundred percent, no-holds-barred truth if I were approached by a mother-to-be asking what it was really like to become a new parent. From what our bodies look and feel like after the miracle of birth to how our moods and demeanors are forever changed…I was ready to spill the beans.</p>
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<p>That the more I know,, the more I realize I don’t know. That none of us have any idea what we’re doing here—we are all learning as we go. That being a mother for a few years doesn’t mean I know what it’s like to be a mother for a few more.</p>
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<p>I now know the only advice I can truly give to her is to just try and enjoy the ride.</p>
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<p>I would tell her only that she’s in for the ride of her life, and not to close her eyes—even for a second—because it’s so fast and so fun and so full of things we never expected to see. But,, most importantly,, that it’s her ride to experience. And no matter how many stories she hears about purses and dog food and shopping trips, she will find her own wisdom to ponder, have her own victories to celebrate and make her own mistakes to learn from.</p>
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<p>I figured I would tell her that she’ll need to give herself some room, some forgiveness—for she’ll surely disappoint herself, and sometimes others. Maybe I would tell her to laugh at her mistakes and celebrate her small victories, knowing that I would really be speaking to myself.</p>
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<p>As time passed, I thought more and more about what I would tell that mother-to-be, and thoughts of what I would discuss shifted from toddlerhood to the speed at which our children grow…how amazing it is to watch them leave for school only days after singing them a lullaby,, rocking them in our arms and staring at them for hours while they sleep.</p>
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Even when infidelity has not happened in a relationship

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You can take rebuilding trust or even being in the same room with your mate who had an affair at your own pace.

Jake feels comfortable focusing mainly on the short-term and is also feeling a greater sense of relief and even openness as he and Camille continue to identify their relationship habits and make agreements and changes.




Try not to jump to an absolute decision about whether to stay with this person or to breakup as you are in the middle of intense feelings.



Jake agrees to meet Camille at a coffee shop. He tells her that he is not prepared to make a final decision about whether he'll continue their marriage or not.




When you find out your partner had an affair,, it can seem as if the world stopped and you are frozen in the feelings of pain and hurt in the aftermath of betrayal.



What do you need right now?
When you're reeling in the aftermath of infidelity, take the time to be gentle with yourself. Don't rush into any final decisions at this moment. Instead, tune in and ask yourself what you need right now.

As the reality settles in,, you might be confused and conflicted about whether or not to take back your mate.






You might be given a lot of advice at this time and you might feel pressured by your mate or those close to you to stay and work it out or to get out of the relationship immediately.



Use the information you receive from your internal listening and to what you hear from your partner to guide you in making decisions one step at a time.



You might be promising yourself that you will not be caught off guard by infidelity ever again. At the same time,, you might wonder if your relationship can be saved. After all, you've heard about people who were able to rebuild trust and ended up closer than before.



Set an agreement that feels realistic and doable to each of you. You might even come up with conditions that may indicate that you are each keeping to the agreement.

Jake and Camille create some agreements about being more open and honest with one another. This also means they will each take responsibility for being honest about their feelings rather than stuffing them inside and withdrawing--- which is what Jake has habitually done in their relationship.

Now Jake feels that it's time for him to make a decision about the future. Camille agreed to give him space to think,, but she has also made it clear how filled with regret she is and how much she'd like to work it out.



If you are still trying to decide whether you should take back your partner after an affair,, ask yourself if you are willing to request and make agreements with your mate.



Jake decided that he still needed space and is not ready to share a home with Camille right now. But he doesn't want to close down to her completely. With the help of a coach,, Jake is eager to learn more about what happened and to begin to heal.



Even when infidelity has not happened in a relationship, it can be beneficial to remember that you get to choose whether or not to be in your relationship every single day.

It could be that, like Jake,, you need space and a bit of distance from your mate who cheated. Or it might be that you want to be near this person and get more information.



Jake realizes that the next move is up to him. He's just not clear about whether he should stay in his marriage or file for a divorce.



After a few sessions with their relationship coach,, Jake is willing to move back home with Camille.



Keep checking in with yourself and listen to what you hear. When you can really listen, tune in to what your partner wants and see if the two of you can form agreements that will help move you closer together.

He's still hurting but he's also starting to get a fuller picture of the disconnecting relationship habits that contributed to the infidelity in the first place. He is now able to see that there were dynamics they both contributed to.




But, Jake does say he is willing to begin meeting with a relationship coach. He wants to figure out what happened in their marriage and what led Camille to cheat. He doesn't promise Camille anything more than that. He also tells her that he plans to stay with his brother for at least another week.



Is this a level of engagement you are open to right now? If so,, ask yourself what agreements would help you feel like the two of you are making a positive shift?



When you make an agreement,, be sure it is clear and you both understand what you are agreeing to.

Jake is still livid when he thinks about his wife Camille's affair. About a week ago,, he found out that she'd been cheating. Jake has been staying with his brother who lives in the same town ever since Camille confessed having an affair.




Figure out your next step and don't worry so much about the “big picture” at this time if that's at all possible in your situation.

What agreements are you willing to make?
A first step to rebuilding trust in your relationship after an affair is to make a shift and change the direction you two are going. Making agreements around being transparent-- open and honest-- is one way to encourage a shift towards trust.



Keep listening within and take steps that will bring you relief.

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    Change the Place.
    Go to tango class rather than spending another Saturday night at Outback,, or get freaky in the guest room (or even the back yard), instead of the usual romp in your own bed.






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    Change what you Wear.
    Forget jeans and dump the track suit. Get all dressed up for a big night out,, even if you just hit the local Denny’s. The act of spending time on your appearance in anticipation of your date will make you feel more romantic before you even get your pantyhose on.

    Change the Subject.
    Instead of talking about the kids,, what’s for dinner,, or what happened on the Spam account,, ask questions like you did when you were dating: What was your college essay about? What’s the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you as a kid? Where’s the weirdest place you’ve ever gotten lucky?

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    After a few years of marriage,, a lot of people find they don’t have anything to talk about but who left their toenails under the couch,, and what happened on Grey’s Anatomy. If you’re in a long-term relationship that’s lost its sizzle,, now’s the time to figure out how to get that sizzle back.
    The key to revving up romance is to bring one new element to date night:

    Change your Scent.
    A study at the University of Chicago showed men associate the scents of cinnamon and vanilla with love. When you’re looking to cook up a little romance, pop some of those ready-to-bake cinnamon rolls in the oven,, or wear a cinnamon-vanilla scented perfume. (We love the Man-Magnet Parfum Glacé) Trust me ladies, it works like catnip for men.



    To read more from Lisa on topics like this & others on love, cheating,, relationships or dating advice visit:




    Change your Color.
    Wear red, and lots of hit. Dye your hair or slink out in something scarlet. Wearing red increases your heart rate (and his) and mimics attraction – just enough to kick-start a slow night.

    TV Dating Expert Lisa Daily is the bestselling author of two dating books Stop Getting Dumped,!, How to Date Like a Grownup and Fifteen Minutes of Shame (a novel) and is seen everywhere from Entertainment Tonight to the HITCH movie DVD.


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      France plans before the end of the year to withdraw all combat troops, two years earlier than NATO troops.There are 6 and the French army, Afghanistan, attacks related to participate in the discussion

      most importantly

      For years after having our first babies, my friends and I uttered,, “I never knew that was going to happen” many times over. From birthing books to family elders’ recollections, the pieces of advice and information bits handed out never seemed to cover what occurred beyond the outside edges of the sit-com version of new parenting.

      Published in The Broomfield Enterprise, 10/28/07

      I was primed to tell her that things she wouldn’t dream of touching would soon become things she would instinctively reach out to catch bare-handed to save the carpet. I was prepared to explain how,, just after wiping her baby’s face with her shirt, she would inevitably run into her handsome, successful and single ex-boyfriend. I was equipped to chat about the noises and odors that come from the nether regions of small children,, and how they become common place and mundane quicker than one would think.

      I looked forward to revealing that “me time” becomes a short break to buy groceries alone, during which all she will think about is her husband and children anyway. And how the term “mommy-brain” would deftly weave it’s way into her daily conversation.

      I began to think about telling that mother-to-be more about the importance of holding on to those special moments,, acknowledging each milestone and passage into the next stage of life—our children’s and our own.



      I hoped to tell stories about words I previously promised would never come out of my mouth, like “because I said so”, “go ask your father”, and “I don’t need a weekend getaway—I just need some respect around here.”

      I’ve been a parent for over eight years now, and I think I have finally figured out what to say,, should that young mother-to-be appear,, asking for the truth. And it is this: that there is no single truth.




      I wanted to talk about all the mistakes and mishaps that occur—ones that never seem to make it into any book or advice section. I would share the time I saved up for four months to buy a designer purse, and then, after unpacking it,, watched my youngest drop it into a toilet, forever re-naming it my Louis “Pee-ton”. And how my friend’s daughter and dog sat together,, eating an entire cup of puppy food before she realized what it meant when a young child is awake, yet quiet.




      Because of this, I began to look forward to telling the absolute, one hundred percent, no-holds-barred truth if I were approached by a mother-to-be asking what it was really like to become a new parent. From what our bodies look and feel like after the miracle of birth to how our moods and demeanors are forever changed…I was ready to spill the beans.

      That the more I know,, the more I realize I don’t know. That none of us have any idea what we’re doing here—we are all learning as we go. That being a mother for a few years doesn’t mean I know what it’s like to be a mother for a few more.



      I now know the only advice I can truly give to her is to just try and enjoy the ride.



      I would tell her only that she’s in for the ride of her life, and not to close her eyes—even for a second—because it’s so fast and so fun and so full of things we never expected to see. But,, most importantly,, that it’s her ride to experience. And no matter how many stories she hears about purses and dog food and shopping trips, she will find her own wisdom to ponder, have her own victories to celebrate and make her own mistakes to learn from.

      I figured I would tell her that she’ll need to give herself some room, some forgiveness—for she’ll surely disappoint herself, and sometimes others. Maybe I would tell her to laugh at her mistakes and celebrate her small victories, knowing that I would really be speaking to myself.

      As time passed, I thought more and more about what I would tell that mother-to-be, and thoughts of what I would discuss shifted from toddlerhood to the speed at which our children grow…how amazing it is to watch them leave for school only days after singing them a lullaby,, rocking them in our arms and staring at them for hours while they sleep.



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