User:DirtyMeStoryTime/Women and objectification
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Now, this one may get a bit rambly. Sometimes it is as hard to explain what it feels like to be objectified as it is to explain what it feels like to be in love. But I will try.
Anyways, once I saw this funny comic trying to explain the difference between male and female puberty. I would show you, but cannot find it...
Anyways, the picture of the boy shows a few little whiskers, and states: Welcome to puberty. You will experience some changes, like body hair and voice changes. You may also find yourself feeling some strange urges.
The picture of the girl shows her getting kicked between the legs, symbolizing the start of her new period and cramps, and says "Welcome to your objectification".
So, here is the sad part for girls that most guys I don't think really appreciate (No worries, after getting this off my chest, I will get to the rest of the objectification part): First, we get teased for these new bumps growing from our chest. Then, we get teased about the size of these new bumps. It doesn't matter if you develop breasts slowly or quickly, as a girl, we still get teased. If they grow slowly, we get teased about how small we are compared to other girls. If we grow bigger quickly, we get teased about the size of our breasts compared to the other girls. Also, our bodies will be judged, we will be teased about weight, height, and other things.
Why the above? It starts to let you understand how the "objectification" starts to kick in. Our bodies are different, and we are judged based on things we have no control over. Our breasts become something that, as they get older and hit puberty, suddenly become an object of interest for guys. We start to get the "Show me please" passive aggressive requests, like because our chest is different, we should allow guys to see what it looks like. I mean, after all, guys can take off their shirt, but girls cannot, so they want to see why.
Our bodies become everything. We wear outfits that show more skin, and suddenly that is bad. So, as a girl, we just went from being able to run around topless like the boys, to having to cover up at all times. From being able to wear outfits that were cute, to "OMFG you are showing off too much skin, are you a slut?".
Girls are told to be strong, to be secure, to be ourselves, and yet constantly told by society the exact opposite. Ladies do not eat that much. Trust me, if you eat the same as a guy, people will look at you strange. Ladies do not dress in revealing outfits. Yet, that guy jogs by wearing nothing but shorts and sneakers. Ladies do not fart. Trust me, we do, we poop too. I will fart right back at my husband, but because of social conditioning, I will not fart in public. Which is strange, because I will fuck in public if I had the choice, but not fart in public. Same with burping. We need to pass gas too, but it is not ladylike to do so in public.
So, we are a different species. How we look, sound, smell, dress, our weight, our chest size, all these things become who we are. The superficial, surface thing. Like some sort of pretty, shiny, object. Not how we think, express ourselves, our personality, how we treat others, how we react to situations, but our physical presence. Mothers teach their daughters to respect themselves, to be themselves, and to be a strong, proud woman. Yet, they are reinforcing the same message as the rest of society.
So, we are told not to be an object, that we have value, while we are criticized on all the things that make us an object.
Now it gets tricky. In most women, there is a battle between ourselves as a person and ourselves as an object. We are wracked with self doubt, with dislike for certain parts of ourselves, and with this conflict between the two sides.
Then, we get into sex. A lady never has sex. Ever. They magically have children, but not sex. Not sure how this is ever separated. It becomes even confusing when we get blamed for not "keeping our lover happy". Now, woman to woman, we talk about sex more than most guys might believe, but this is written more so guys can see the world from my perspective, since women have lived this.
More to come.
