Dependent Personality Type
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Definition, Synonyms, Analogous
Devoted
Definition: 1. Feeling or displaying strong affection or attachment; selflessly loyal; ardent. 2. Consecrated; dedicated. (AHD)
Synonyms: loving, affectionate, fond, doting
Analogous: faithful, loyal, true, constant: attentive, considerate, thoughtful (MW, 238)
Character Strengths and Virtues
Attributes of the idealized self
Devotedness, Self-Denial, Decency; Seriousness, Soberness, Conservatism, Self-Control, Cautiousness, Obedience; Frugality, Thriftiness. Forgiveness, Meekness, Forbearance, Patience; Humility, Modesty, Moderation, Discretion. Sociability, Tactfulness. Sincerity, Honesty, Justice; Reliability, Responsibility, Trustworthiness, Loyalty, Faithfulness. Politeness, Courtesy, Thoughtfulness. Altruism, Benignity, Gentleness, Sympathy, Sensitivity, Considerateness, Friendliness; Gratitude, Tenderness, Agreeableness, Fraternity. Attentiveness, Persistence, Perseverance; Tidiness, Orderliness, Carefulness, Meticulousness, Dutifulness, Prudence; Steadiness. Knowledgeableness, Fortitude, Stoicism, Humorousness.
Traits and Behaviors
Strategies to actualize the idealized image
Value sustained relationships Need othe people Follow rather than lead Deferential Agreeable Pleasing Attached
Likes and Dislikes
Likes
Excessive attachments to limited goods
some strong figure who will provide the resources for their survival and happiness, nurturance, support, help from other people, encouragement, a spouse, being loved, a competent partner or caretaker, staying close to the caretaker, an intimate relationship, subservience, a dependent relationship, subordination, placating and pleasing a caretaker.
Dislikes
Excessive aversions to limited evils
making decisions by oneself, helplessness, being alone, being abandoned, offending a caretaker, independence, rejection, criticism, having to do things oneself.
Beliefs
Dogmas of the private religion
(Beck, Freeman & associates, 1990, pg. 360, modified)
I am needy and weak. I need somebody around available at all times to help me carry out what I need to do or in case something bad happens. My helper can be nurturant, supportive, and confident—if he or she wants to be. I am helpless when I am left on my own. I am basically alone—unless I can attach myself to a stronger person. The worst possible thing would be to be abandoned. I must do nothing to offend my supporter or helper. I must be subservient in order to maintain his or her good will. I need others to help me make decisions or tell me what to do. I must maintain access to him or her at all times. I should cultivate as intimate a relationship as possible. I can't make decisions on my own. I can't cope as other people can. I need others to help me make decisions or tell me what to do.
Ego defense Mechanisms
Self-glorification requires deception.
Domains
Relationships
Attachments center them and make them feel complete.
Form relationships easily please others anticipate needs considerate and attentive Keep relationships going by doing more of the work making more sacrificies Balance of power take secondary role less dominant more passive caretaking rely on the other for decisions trust the other Idealize the other other responsible makes them feel secure comfortable Stress Trouble in relationships a severe source of stress Take criticism hard Feel responsible for things that go wrong Parenting Nurturing Sensitive to needs and feelings Understand and fulfill dependency needs Overprotect Problems making decisions
Good/Bad Matches
Good
Conscientious Vigilant Aggressive Serious Bad
Self-Confident Adventurous Leisurely Dramatic Sensitive Mercurial Possible
Devoted
Self
Weak sense of self
Need successful, caring, mutually respectful relationship. When they don't feel that they measure up to idealized partner, abandon self. When not involved in relationship, feel that something is wrong with them.
Emotions
With absence of or trouble in relationship they become:
Depressed Anxious Worried
Self-Control
Loss of or trouble in relationshipos may lead to substitutive dependencies:
Tobacco Alcohol Drugs Food Sex
Real World
Feel small, needy, and less substantial than idealized others.
Work
Management Style
They tend to avoid becoming managers Caring managers May need assertivieness training
Careers
Jobs where they: take direct orders fulfill needs of others secure position Service Social work Psychotherapists Nursing Working with children Service agencies Avoid jobs Not involving others requiring a great deal of decision: making implementing being responsible for
Self-Improvement
Areas that may need improvement
Expressing opinions Expressing feelings Decision making Developing interests Developing life skills Being on one's own Other Areas of interest
Disorder
Dependent Personality Disorder
Noteworthy Examples
John Adams, Woody Allen, Pamela Anderson, Jim Bakker, Jeff Bezos, Humphrey Bogart, Edmund Burke, George Bush, George W. Bush, Steve Case, Carlos Castaneda, Richard J. Daley, Richard M. Daley, John Dos Passos, Sally Field, Teri Garr, Edward Gibbon, Mel Gibson, Newt Gingrich, Tom Hanks, J. Edgar Hoover, John Irving, Ernest Jones, Jack Kerouac, Heather Locklear, Slobodan Milosevic, Marilyn Monroe, Oliver North, Hedda Nussbaum, Larry Page, Helen Palmer, Otto Rank, Nancy Reagan, Julia Roberts, Peter Sellers, Harry Stack Sullivan, Steve Wozniak.
References
The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language (1981, c.1969). William Morris, Ed. Boston: Houghton Mifflin.
Aaron T. Beck, Arthur Freeman, and Associates (1990). Cognitive Therapy of Personality Disorders. New York : Guilford Press.
Aaron T. Beck, Arthur Freeman, Denise D. Davis, (2004). Cognitive Therapy of Personality Disorders. 2nd. edition. New York: Guilford.
Merriam-Webster (1984). Webster's New Dictionary of Synonyms: A Dictionary of Discriminated Synonyms with Antonyms and Analogous and Contrasted Words. Springfield, MA: Merriam-Webster.
John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris (1995). The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do. New York: Bantam.
Devoted
Definition:
Synonyms:
Analogous:
Character Strengths and Virtues
- Devoutness, Self-Denial, Decency; Seriousness, Soberness, Conservatism, Self-Control,
- Cautiousness, Obedience; Frugality, Thriftiness.
- Forgiveness, Meekness, Forbearance, Patience; Humility, Modesty, Moderation, Discretion.
- Sociability, Tactfulness.
- Sincerity, Honesty, Justice; Reliability, Responsibility, Trustworthiness, Loyalty,
- Faithfulness.
- Politeness, Courtesy, Thoughtfulness.
- Altruism, Benignity, Gentleness, Sympathy, Sensitivity, Considerateness, Friendliness;
- Gratitude, Tenderness, Agreeableness, Fraternity.
- Attentiveness, Persistence, Perseverance; Tidiness, Orderliness, Carefulness, Meticulousness, # Dutifulness, Prudence; Steadiness.
- Knowledgeableness, Fortitude, Stoicism, Humorousness.
Traits or Behaviors
Likes
some strong figure who will provide the resources for their survival and happiness, nurturance, support, help from other people, encouragement, a spouse, being loved, a competent partner or caretaker, staying close to the caretaker, an intimate relationship, subservience, a dependent relationship, subordination, placating and pleasing a caretaker
Dislikes
making decisions by oneself, helplessness, being alone, being abandoned, offending a caretaker, independence, rejection, criticism, having to do things oneself
Relationships
Parenting
Good/Bad Matches
Emotions
Self-Control
Real World
Work
Management Style
Careers
Self-Improvement
Areas that may need improvement
- Expressing opinions
- Expressing anger
- Decision making
- Taking care of oneself
- Developing skills
- Attachment
Noteworthy Examples
John Adams, Woody Allen, Pamela Anderson, Jim Bakker, Jeff Bezos, Humphrey Bogart, Edmund Burke, George Bush, George W. Bush, Steve Case, Carlos Castaneda, Richard J. Daley, Richard M. Daley, John Dos Passos, Sally Field, Teri Garr, Edward Gibbon, Mel Gibson, Newt Gingrich, Tom Hanks, J. Edgar Hoover, John Irving, Ernest Jones, Jack Kerouac, Heather Locklear, Slobodan Milosevic, Marilyn Monroe, Oliver North, Hedda Nussbaum, Larry Page, Helen Palmer, Otto Rank, Nancy Reagan, Julia Roberts, Peter Sellers, Harry Stack Sullivan, Steve Wozniak.
References
John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris (1995). The New Personality Self-Portrait: Why You Think, Work, Love and Act the Way You Do. New York: Bantam.
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