Masochist me/Sex training
From Create Your Own Story
"I see lots of faces here. I have a few things I need to make sure you are aware of. Any time between now and the second class, you can withdraw and receive a full refund for the costs of the class."
I thought that was a little strange. Why would people do that?
"Now, let me explain what this class is for. Here, you will learn about sexual techniques, and how to please your partner. Please understand, this class is only for male female relationships. I am not qualified, and will not teach, female female or male male techniques. So, if you are here for either of these, please feel free to leave now. Or you can stay, so you will not be made to feel uncomfortable. To help ensure that no one is make uncomfortable, I ask you all to lay your heads on your desk."
It was strange, like I was back in grade school or something.
"Anyone who would like to leave may do so now." I heard a couple, or some, people get up and the door open. After a couple more minutes, the instructor continued. "Okay, you may raise your heads again."
I did, and noticed that only a couple of people had left.
"So, for those who remain, please note the second issue. This will be a hands on class. While many of the things will be discussion, evaluation through film or guests coming in to demonstrate, you will also be required to participate. You will not need to do anything that you are uncomfortable with, but for those of you who are in a relationship, I stress that it is important to either participate in this class with your partner," I had already spotted one of those, holding hands as they sat next to each other, "or that your partner is aware of this class, and that you will be learning about and experimenting with different sexual techniques. This will mean that you will be partnered with someone of the opposite gender, and engage in sexual activities with that partner." He gave each of us a hard look after stating this. "Also, you will be doing this in front of the class." He waited a moment to let that sink in, then continued. "Again, I ask everyone to put their heads on their desk." He waited until everyone had complied, then stated, as before, "Anyone who is not comfortable with having sexual contact with your partner during the context of this course, please feel free to leave now." A few more sounds of people standing up, walking out.
"You may look up again." We all raised our heads. About one third of the class had left now.
"Now, you have all taken your required medical exam and signed the needed waiver. Just remember, you will be participating in intimate contact. All protections will be observed. This means condoms are not optional. If you are allergic to latex, please make sure to inform me if you failed to note it on the enrollment form. You may do so privately or through email. Please also remember to observe the confidentiality agreement you signed prior to taking this class. You will be held to it. If you violate your fellow student's privacy, we will evaluate our options for litigation. If you still want to take this class, but are truly not willing to actively participate in any hands on learning, then you will not be forced. I just want to make sure we are clear about this class so it does not cause issues with your personal lives, relationships, or anything else."
He again looked everyone in the eye, asked for another round of heads down. This time, I didn't hear anyone getting up to leave.
"Now, introductions will take place next week, once those who still wish to withdraw from the class are able to. For today, we will simply go over some aspects of human anatomy."
With that, he started with the basics.
The female reproductive system, including the vulva, the external part. The vulva included the mons pubis, pudendal cleft, labia majora, labia minora, Bartholin's glands, clitoris and vaginal opening.
The internal parts of the female reproductive system, including the the vaginal canal, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries.
The male reproductive system, including the penis and scrotum. The internal parts, including the epididymis, vas deferens that carries sperm to the prostatic ducts, and the three glands, the seminal vesicles, the prostate gland, and the bulbourethral glands.
By the end, it felt more medical than sexual. True, there were many pictures shown, with different parts pointed to, highlighted, and discussed. There was both the medical cutaway charts and pictures of real men and women's sexual organs.
We discussed the various changes the body went through during arousal.
Phase 1: Excitement
- For men: The penis starts becoming erect. The man's nipples may also become erect.
- For women: Vaginal lubrication begins. The vagina expands and lengthens. The outer lips, inner lips, clitoris and sometimes breasts begin to swell.
- For both: Heart rate, blood pressure and breathing are all accelerated.
Phase 2: Plateau
- For men: The testes are drawn up into the scrotum. The penis becomes fully erect.
- For women: The vaginal lips become puffier. The tissues of the walls of the outer third of the vagina swell with blood, and the opening to the vagina narrows. The clitoris disappears into its hood. The inner labia changes color. For women who've never had children, the lips turn from pink to bright red. In women who've had children, the color turns from bright red to deep purple.
- For both: Breathing and pulse rates quicken. A "sex flush" may appear on the stomach, chest, shoulders, neck or face. Muscles tense in the thighs, hips, hands and buttocks, and spasms may begin.
Phase 3: Orgasm
- For men: First, seminal fluid collects in the urethral bulb. This is when a man may have the sensation that orgasm is certain, or "ejaculatory inevitability." Next, semen is ejaculated from the penis. Contractions occur in the penis during the orgasmic phase.
- For women: The first third of the vaginal walls contract rhythmically every eight-tenths of a second. The number and intensity of the contractions vary depending on the individual orgasm. The muscles of the uterus also contract barely noticeably.
- For both: Breathing, pulse rate and blood pressure continue to rise. Muscle tension and blood-vessel engorgement reach a peak. Sometimes orgasm comes with a grasping-type muscular reflex of the hands and feet.
Phase 4: Resolution
- For men: The penis returns to its normal flaccid state. There is usually a refractory period, where it's impossible to orgasm again until a certain amount of time has passed. The amount of time varies among men by age, physical fitness and other factors.
- For women: The uterus and clitoris return to their normal positions. Some women may be able to respond to additional stimulation with additional orgasms.
- For both: Swelling recedes, any sex flush disappears, and there is a general relaxation of muscle tension.
While the class seemed to promise some interesting knowledge later, this first class made sex seem sort of...boring...aside from a few videos. But even those seemed rather...clinical.
It was interesting though to see the different students reactions. For their willingness to take this class, some reactions were rather childlike, while others were rather...something. Even I found myself blushing time to time though, so I couldn't say much.
The instructor ended the class with a reminder that students may withdraw before the second class and get a full refund.
The next class, only about one third of the students were left. That left about thirteen of us. Fortunately, there were exactly the same amount of females and males in the class, at least if you included the teacher.
"Okay everyone. It is good to see those of you that chose to remain. Today, we will start getting to know each other. As I read your name, please stand up and tell the class a little about you and why you are here. Also, please tell us if you are here with a partner and point out your partner." With that, he started reading each person's name. Only their first names though.
The reasons varied.
There were four couples in the class, and their reason was pretty straightforward, with a twist with one couple.
"We would just like to know how to make each other happier in bed," was pretty much the common reason. The one couple though, instead of focusing on that, started listing everything their partner wouldn't do, and what they hoped the partner would learn in the class.
Right in front of our eyes, they devolved completely into a full blown argument. The teacher stepped in.
"Hello, Terry, Joann. Please be quiet for a minute." I could see them fuming slightly, being interrupted, but holding their tongue.
"Okay, let me start by saying that this is a sexual training class, not a relationship management class. If your sex life is the cause of your dysfunction, then this may help. However, it almost sounds like your problems stem from other issues. You may stay if you want, but I think you really need to sit back and evaluate your relationship, to see if this is the proper place for you to be, or if you should instead focus on marriage counseling."
Contents |
Striptease
(this would be before getting in the bed)
Cuddling/kissing
Soft caresses and kisses on flesh
(explore to find the sensitive spots: most men have sensitive nipples)
Letting him touch/grope you
(some men really get turned on by caressing a woman's butt or sucking her tits)
Oral
(either way, or both at once -- 69. Back when i frequented reddit, one of the female posters said that sometimes when men would go down on her they would leave a bigger wet spot under their dick than she would under her pussy)
Penetrative sex
(either hole)
Positions
As for your questions: When vaginal intercourse takes place, men cum quickest when the position is cowgirl, slower in doggy style and slowest in missionary. I'm guessing that's what you meant by "feels better".
Clearly, cowgirl and missionary are more "intimate" because you can see each other's face, while doggystyle is more "pure sex, no feelings." Alpha-oriented men come in two types: the ones who want both control and intimacy prefer missionary (the man is on top, but can see the woman's face and kiss her) and the ones who just want to get their rocks off and don't care about the woman prefer doggystyle.
That about covers the GENERAL part of the training. After that, you get down to specific things that some men like and some men don't. (Bondage, anal stimulation, forced orgasm, etc.)
I would think that for certain things hands-on training would be needed.
